At some point in your life, you will encounter someone who is absolutely 100% perfect for you. There is a catch, though. There is always a catch. It could be a force beyond your control. It could be something that you bring upon yourself; your fears, needs, or feelings that you weren’t ready for. It may be an age difference, a distance problem, or some other way of physically keeping you apart. The point is, this person could have been everything you wanted, but they slipped through the cracks. They are known most commonly as the one that got away. But what if the one that got away is back?

He got away because of your immaturity. He got away because of the certain things you thought was extraordinary and you thought you can’t handle. He got away because you were selfish. He got away because you thought he wouldn’t be so much for you. He left because you made him thought you don’t deserve him. He left because he really felt unwanted when all he was asking was to love him back.

Gone are the days that you didn’t even think of him. You concentrated on building yourself, making memories with the wrong person, achieving your personal goals and having good times with the environment you were in. During those times, there will always be one thing that will remind you of him and how crazy you were few years back. May this thing be a letter, a word, a song, or even just a thought but it will pinch you on the inside. Even just a little bit.

Late at night when you are having the worst day of your life burdened with the worst person you’re with at the present, you are left with options of thinking the ‘what if’s’ like thinking the possibility of not cutting your relationship before with someone who was ready to give the whole world to you. What if you didn’t make him feel that you didn’t love him at all? What if you were mature enough to handle a relationship that time? What… If…?

You’d be insane thinking what he was doing during the time that he was moving on, what he did when you were enjoying the life of being single for a while, being with another guy for just split of a second and leaving him of the whereabouts why you have broken up with him, and you’d be hysterical to find out how he dealt with the heartbreak you caused him.

You will think that you didn’t deserve how well he treated you, how long he stayed with you, how would he stayed awake just to speak to you and worst, you’d think that you didn’t deserve him. But again, what if he comes back? You made your way back to each other’s arms, fell madly in love as if nothing happened in the past. Everything is so perfect. Everything seems to last a lifetime.

You’ve lost that person and found him again. The second time around, things just made more sense. Honestly, timing has a lot to do with everything. In the past, you aren’t ready for each other yet that is why you parted ways. This time, don’t let him go. This chance is giving yourself a second try just like giving yourself an extra bullet for your gun because you missed him the first time.

Give it your best shot.

 

 

As I sit on a table surrounded with my housemates, I can see all of them struggling to comply with all of the requirements they need to have in compliance with their graduation. I can see myself on them as I was fighting against exactly the same things a year ago. With that, I can see that most people, if not all are doing all means to achieve his/her own goal. I’ve been seeing the same scenario in this table for the past months and it made me look back on the things I’ve had after complying all of these—GRADUATION, A DEGREE!

The day after graduation, I was torn between statements of “No, you must reward yourself first for working too hard for your degree” and “get up, find a job, pay your parents back for all the sacrifices and achieve your life goals”. Apparently, it is never wrong to reward yourself of some good treats for working your butt off in attaining your degree. On the other hand, it defeats the purpose of graduating on time if you make reasons of delaying your life goals, doesn’t it?

In a perspective of my young mind and experience in 21 years, here are some of my realizations after graduation:

1. Not figuring your life out just yet is natural. During youth, you are at the peak of your curiosity, exploring possibilities of doing this and doing that and the consequences of this when you do that. It is just natural not to know what you want to settle for in the future, exempting the fact that you graduated with a degree you really want to practice. So, it is definitely fine at the age of 20 or 21 not to know where you are going, just do not totally lose control of what you aim. Chill.

2. Your first job is not your forever job. You might have attained a degree in education or journalism and practice it in the first six months of getting that degree. It rarely happens that you practice your degree in profession, I congratulate you if that’s the case, but there will always be something in you to think over the box and have the urge to try other profession and savor how it feels like. Quitting your first job is not a crime at all.

find20job20logo3. You want to do so many things but you lack resources. It is like a norm in the Philippines that your parents are supporting you every step of the way towards your goals. However, most parents, if not all, assume that fresh graduates can support themselves right after. But that is just not the case. After graduation, you will still long for the things you do when you were in college such as hanging out with your friends, going out on a pub, buying these stuff and all. And it will kill you every time you want to do so but you can’t because you don’t have money. And it sucks.

4. Romantic relationship will be the last item in your life. This may not be applicable to all but you will be at the lowest point of your life because of confusion in priorities. You will not know how you will be able to start in achieving your wants. It is very difficult to be in a relationship without knowing your own sense of direction. So do not expect those relationship goals just right after graduation because reality in life slaps real hard.

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5. You will have the worst feeling of inferiority. It is awful to be belittled by other people but at some point in other people’s life, they feel inferior, especially fresh graduates when it comes to job application. You must acknowledge the fact that you are not the only person who graduated Summa, Magna of Cum Laude in this universe, you’re not the only fresh graduate with that degree from that university. However, you must trust yourself and everything else will follow. It is completely understandable if you will be rejected a couple of times. What matters most is that, you tried.

6. You must plan your future. It really pays if you plan your life. Not just a general plan but a detailed one. When you plan a house, you just don’t decide when to build a house but you also must consider where to get money to build a house and what materials to be used. In short, you must plan what is gonna happen in your life and what you want to achieve 5 or 10 years from now. To make it more effective, list down the things you want to do or achieve yearly. Just a little piece of advice, take a look at that list first thing in the morning.

7. Failure is delayed success. It is inevitable that you compare yourself with your batch mates right after graduation. You will have the tendency to compare their success to your success and you will realize that some of them are already ahead of you in the race. Maybe that is because they are so eager and so driven not to be left by time. The extra amount of effort and hard work made all the difference. Maybe, it is no just your time to shine like they do, or maybe there are better things ahead of you that God made you wait for. Just always remember that the best things come to those who wait but better things happen to those who chase them. You’ll shine when you least expect it.

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Things do not always work the way you want them. They happen in the most candid way, in your least expected timing. You do not expect these phenomena to happen but I surely that if they do, just trust yourself and trust God, you’ll be perfectly fine. These things are better in their right timing. Just relax as you witness magical objects in your life unfold. It’s okay to stumble down, it’s okay to be confused, it’s okay to be rejected. Don’t rush, enjoy your life with purpose!

Couldn’t get over this most terrific exchange program I was in so far. So many connections established, camaraderie gained, and learning digested. Thank you, United States of America! 🙂

 

 

 

There are feelings that have been lost, feelings that have faded away, feelings that have been deformed by the circumstances, feelings destroyed by conditional terms, and feelings ruined by another stronger destructive feeling. Whatever feelings those maybe, feelings are still feelings demanded to be felt no matter how you avoid and deny it.

The heart never says to stop loving. It’s the heart that opens your mind to the reality and finally it’s one’s decision to take it or leave it. Some feelings do fade away, falling out of love as it is called, and it’s during one’s moving on process that one realizes that life is too short to be anything but happy. But, can two broken hearts find comfort in each other?

No one have fathomed the possibility of finding comfort and love in one person who’s broken. Broken by love, by the cruelty of life, consequences of bad decisions made before, and loss of hope thinking of no chances to win everything back again. Persons who thought that they do not have any more right to be happy, to love and to be loved, persons who thought their world has ended. Yes, it is possible for two different jagged hearts to fall in love and start anew.

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Love doesn’t require couples to be perfect. As the old, probably most cliché, saying goes- ‘You don’t need to find the perfect person to love, but you have to accept a flawed person and love him/her perfectly”. Given the fact that it’s like once you’ve been hurt, you’re so scared to get attached again, like you have the fear that every person you start to like is going to break your heart. It is as it may seem, but that isn’t how love works.

There comes a point in our lives, always, when we do things or mistakes, ones we thought we would never capable of doing. That doesn’t mean that we are bad people, it only means we are not perfect. In those moments, everything is put to the test- our friendships, our relationships, who we are and who we can still become. In the process, we wonder, who will accept that we are only human and we admit to making mistakes, who will forgive us and who have enough faith in us. In those same moments, we begin to find the real ones, the best ones, the ones who, no matter how tough and crazy it gets, will always love us enough. Just enough to stay and start over with us. We may choose to let these mistakes consume us and then define us but we can always choose to forgive it, own up to it and rise above it. We should always know that in spite and because of these mistakes, we can become better people and that making mistakes happen-even to the best of us. No matter what, we should never stop having hope, keeping Faith and believing, that one blessed day, we will redeem everything and right there we would know as maturing individuals we finally got our second, third, fourth, fifth chances,

Moving on is a tough process. You need to be real strong in order to get over with it. It happens to everyone as they grow up, you find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.

Yes, it is possible for broken hearts to be restored to a place of health and emotion again, demonstrate love, and forgive.

I can barely remember the times when I have had my vacation- I mean not related in any way of work and studies. I guess this trip has compensated the things that I was lacking just right after graduation- friends, adventure, and me-time. Though I was surrounded by sets of lovers, just then I thought that I can enjoy everything that comes my way without someone. Thanks to Jelah/Joshua and Bridgette/Francis for making me fathom that being alone doesn’t mean I’m lonely.

I fell in love with Cebu several times. Of course, we prepared for this trip several months ago. Me, Jelah, and Joshua agreed to implement the rule “no-restaurant-eating” during the entire trip, to lessen the expenses and use the money instead exploring all the things possible in Cebu. We seldom use the cab and ride the jeepey (which costs Php 8.00-12.00 every trip), ferry boat (Php 12.00), and motor cyclye (Php 20.00) instead, to reach our itinerary every day. The mode of transportation in Cebu since the jeepneys have number coding (e.g. 12I, 1k, 12J) so if you’re in a hurry, taxi should get along your way.

When we arrived, we were starving, a lot, and decided to eat Ginat-an along the streets. We had meat soup, rice and soft drinks, just enough to satisfy us. With our stomach full, we only paid Php 280.00 and there were five of us. The entire trip was this thrifty but worthy, and we never expected the trip to be two times as thrifty as we expected.

Here’s an overview of where we went:

The Mactan Shrine

This was me in Mactan Shrine :)

This was me in Mactan Shrine 🙂

Cebu IT Park

Cebu IT Park now vibrantly brings together top-class talent and technology in a community that was master-planned as a convergence of Asian architectural warmth and efficient Western functionality.

Cebu  IT Park also strives to preserve its beautiful environment through well-maintained landscape and greenery to complement the high-rise infrastructure of its global locators. Tall buildings, brightest lights ever!

Fort San Pedro

Squad goes to Fort San Pedro

Squad goes to Fort San Pedro.

Fuerza San Pedro, the fort is described as built of stone mortar with a terraplein where guns are mounted. The fort contains the necessary buildings. The largest of these buildings was the “Cuerpo de Guardia” where the personnel that manned the fort lived. Adjacent to it was the “Vivende del Teniente” which was the living quarters of the lieutenant of the Fort.

Basilica Menor del Santo Niño

Sorry for the wrong dress code :)

Sorry for the wrong dress code 🙂

“Basilica Minore del Santo Nino Cebu” is the oldest Roman Catholic Church of 16th century in Cebu city. Located in the center of the city and is a perfect example of combination of three different architecture styles . The church was built at the exact location where the image of Santo Nino that means the Black Holy Child Jesus was found. Unfortunately, we were not able to go inside the church since we wore improper dress codes for a religious institution.

Magellan’s Cross

Me with my anak, Jelah :)

Me with my anak, Jelah 🙂

This cross is housed in a chapel next to the Basilica Menor del Santo Niño on Magallanes Street (Magallanes being the Spanish name of Magellan), just in front of the city center of Cebu City. A sign below the cross describes the original cross is encased inside the wooden cross that is found in the center of the chapel. This is to protect the original cross from people who chipped away parts of the cross for souvenir purposes or in the belief that the cross possesses miraculous powers.

Rainforest Park Cebu

Rainforest Jungle Adventure

Rainforest Jungle Adventure.

The first of its kind in Cebu of a well-thought unique concepts that encloses an inspired mix of entertainment, adventure, leisure, educational, dining and unwinding for the entire family.

SM City Cebu

SM City Cebu with these girls.

SM City Cebu with these girls.

We went to SM to have snacks and God, it was a hell of a shopping mall!

Butterfly Sanctuary

Me, my eye bags and the preserved owl butterflies.

Me, my eye bags and the preserved owl butterflies.

Prof. Jumalon amassed a vast collection of butterflies through his travels worldwide and by trading local Philippine species with foreign ones. Jumalon’s fascination with Lepidopterans did not just end in having them preserved and framed. He wanted the butterflies close by especially the rare ones. So to invite these insects he planted his residence with butterfly food plants. He also caught live specimens and released them in his garden. His butterfly collection is known to be the oldest and perhaps the biggest in the Philippines. So amazed by the little creatures I’ve witnessed. Wonderful were the masterpieces made out from dead butterflies.

Taoist Temple

The Taoist Temple.

The Taoist Temple.

The temple is the a center of worship for Taoism, the religion which follows the teachings of the ancient Chinese philosopher, Lao Tze. You can see Taoist devotees following their traditional rites and rituals on Wednesdays and Sundays, as they climb the 99 steps of the temple to light joss sticks and have their fortunes read by the monks. Took a lot of pictures because the aura was so Chinese. I felt Chinese back this time.

Ayala Center Mall

The nice thing about Ayala Mall in Cebu is if you need a break from shopping you can go sit at one of the many shops on the Terraces and just relax and have a drink or dine on one of the many different cuisines that are offered on all levels. Ayala Mall Cebu is located near the IT Park and in the heart of the Cebu City Business Park. Ayala Mall Cebu is the area’s most beautiful and comfortable mall to go shopping and dining with live entertainment events on the ground floor almost daily. We ate lechon for snacks, and oh, the mall was pretty much big!

Crown Regency Hotels Crown Regency Hotels and Resorts Sky Experience Adventure

Our jump shot after 6 exciting activities.

Our jump shot after 6 exciting activities.

We were asked to wear an orange jumpsuit and white sneakers before stepping out in the platform. There were also guides that walked us through the edge of the building aside from the harness as support of course. I briefed myself not to look down because it may just take away the little courage I have left. Fortunately, nothing bad happened to me after that but still my fear of heights is still present until now.

We tried the bucketlist challenge which includes Skywalk, Edge Coaster, 6D Theater, Tower zip, Wall Climbing, and Vertex. Oh my gosh, amidst the heights, we made in in 5 hours! You guys must visit http://www.skyexperienceadventure.com/page/rates-and-schedules if interested. The activities are a little bit expensive. However, the experience will be worth the price, I tell you.

Karancho Beach Resort

The lovers.

The lovers.

Karancho is a nice and spacious resort located in Maribago, Lapu-Lapu City on Mactan Island, Cebu Province, Philippines.

It is a resort that is friendly to family picnics and group gatherings. And, it is a great place for parties, event venue, and obviously a beach resort with facilities for various activities. We had so much great times here since girls did the grocery and the boys made all the cooking- which is something I’m proud of. We went boating and of course, swimming!

Of all the food we tasted, the Tuslob Buwa (Deep Bubbles) was my favorite. It was made out from pig’s brains (yep, you read it right), liver, onions, and oil. Amazing it is since we were the ones who cooked for it and it tasted like so heaven. It;s the first time I tasted it and i will never get tired of dipping the puso (steamed rice cooked in coconut leaves). Really one of the best!

This is how a tuslob buwa menu looks like

This is how a Tuslob Buwa menu looks like.

Me and my friends waiting for the Tuslob Buwa :)

Me and my friends waiting for the Tuslob Buwa 🙂

Traveling is not for the rich. Traveling is for the people who wanted to see the world and to explore new things- going out of their comfort zones and see what the universe has to offer. Honestly, I didn’t bring too much money but I’m glad I still have enough when I get home. Travel is giving yourself a chance to relax and the chance for the world to know you more.

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(Note: Some of the historical descriptions were grabbed from the internet)

Taken at Maruja Flora's Island Paradise

Taken at Maruja Flora’s Island Paradise

L's first travel tumbling shot at Isla Gigantes, Carles, Iloilo City, Philippines

L’s first travel tumbling shot at Isla Gigantes, Carles, Iloilo City, Philippines

This is to show all of you how talented Filipinos are. Three different covers using English, Bisaya(dialect), and Tagalog. Bravo!

Not all people have the guts to pretend how strong they are. They stumble down, they also get hurt, they lose, and they give up. People are human beings that are expected to be influenced by their surroundings- bound for heartaches and disappointments.

Pain is always around. The thing is that, pain is just waiting for someone to burst all the tears out and be affected. The distress will always make a person down. The discomfort one feels can make one desperate to make irrational decisions which they think is right. It’s a defense mechanism. All the pain felt will give out lessons, and that lessons will change a person.

Actually, it depends to the person if he/she will let the pain endure his/her being. Some savour it while it lasts because they know that it will pass eventually. Many don’t know how to cope up with it and fail to surpass it. But for a few, they endure it, use it to change their mind set, perspective and all the things they can change. It’s not about revenge; it’s about dealing with shit and staying strong.

We are living in a world of uncertainties. The best way to not get your heart broken is to pretend that you don’t have one. Some people really pull out the best in you. However, it’s better to treat everyone you meet as if they were going to die by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Guess your life will never ever be the same again.

Walking away has nothing to do with weakness and everything to do with strength. People walk away not because they want others to realize their worth and value, but because they finally realize their own. Maybe, there is something they’re afraid to say, or someone they’re afraid to love, or somewhere they’re afraid to go. One thing is for sure, it’s gonna hurt like hell. It’s gonna hurt because it matters.

In life, there are some people you’re going to have lose in order to find yourself. Others signify that everybody has gone through something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person they once were.

Really, that’s the thing about pain; it demands to be felt.

Love comes during the times we don’t expect it. We get hurt without us knowing. We get betrayed without our consent. But that’s what life is all about. Sometimes, we never have an idea what’s best for us.

How hard is it to let go of a 6-year relationship? One may have doubts to see the time wasted. Or maybe, one has the capacity to look over one’s self-pity for spending quite some time over the dramas. One must realize that it is one great strategy to end up the crazy fights. Also, possibility would be, one would be thankful for having the ability to do whatever they wanted to- single.

Love is ruined not always by third party or ruined trust. There will always come a time that both of you are tired. Tired of making an effort, tired of understanding, tired of showing how grateful you are to have each other. Maybe, one has realized that it really is true love, but in contrary, hurt by the fact that true love has its requirements to work.

You know you love each other so much but the circumstances won’t allow to keep you pursuing. That love wouldn’t keep you alive forever. That love tested by time can’t keep you guaranteed that you will always be loved forever. That love can’t keep the both of you faithful to each other. Many doubts will enter in to your mind, I guess one has to deal with it.

Most of the time, there are really things that should come to an end. One might want to deal with it for the rest of eternity, but hail to the ones who realizes self-respect. As the old saying goes, in every ending, there’s a new beginning. One may wonder of the future possibilities of getting back together in the future sooner or later, but fate has its own destiny. One may want to draw his/her destined path, but it will always be the fate.

Sometimes understanding is better than love. Try to understand people and one will be less hurt. In a relationship, there should always be a time spent away from each other.

Love fades away if the hearts grow apart. That ends my love story.