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At some point in your life, you will encounter someone who is absolutely 100% perfect for you. There is a catch, though. There is always a catch. It could be a force beyond your control. It could be something that you bring upon yourself; your fears, needs, or feelings that you weren’t ready for. It may be an age difference, a distance problem, or some other way of physically keeping you apart. The point is, this person could have been everything you wanted, but they slipped through the cracks. They are known most commonly as the one that got away. But what if the one that got away is back?

He got away because of your immaturity. He got away because of the certain things you thought was extraordinary and you thought you can’t handle. He got away because you were selfish. He got away because you thought he wouldn’t be so much for you. He left because you made him thought you don’t deserve him. He left because he really felt unwanted when all he was asking was to love him back.

Gone are the days that you didn’t even think of him. You concentrated on building yourself, making memories with the wrong person, achieving your personal goals and having good times with the environment you were in. During those times, there will always be one thing that will remind you of him and how crazy you were few years back. May this thing be a letter, a word, a song, or even just a thought but it will pinch you on the inside. Even just a little bit.

Late at night when you are having the worst day of your life burdened with the worst person you’re with at the present, you are left with options of thinking the ‘what if’s’ like thinking the possibility of not cutting your relationship before with someone who was ready to give the whole world to you. What if you didn’t make him feel that you didn’t love him at all? What if you were mature enough to handle a relationship that time? What… If…?

You’d be insane thinking what he was doing during the time that he was moving on, what he did when you were enjoying the life of being single for a while, being with another guy for just split of a second and leaving him of the whereabouts why you have broken up with him, and you’d be hysterical to find out how he dealt with the heartbreak you caused him.

You will think that you didn’t deserve how well he treated you, how long he stayed with you, how would he stayed awake just to speak to you and worst, you’d think that you didn’t deserve him. But again, what if he comes back? You made your way back to each other’s arms, fell madly in love as if nothing happened in the past. Everything is so perfect. Everything seems to last a lifetime.

You’ve lost that person and found him again. The second time around, things just made more sense. Honestly, timing has a lot to do with everything. In the past, you aren’t ready for each other yet that is why you parted ways. This time, don’t let him go. This chance is giving yourself a second try just like giving yourself an extra bullet for your gun because you missed him the first time.

Give it your best shot.

 

 

There are feelings that have been lost, feelings that have faded away, feelings that have been deformed by the circumstances, feelings destroyed by conditional terms, and feelings ruined by another stronger destructive feeling. Whatever feelings those maybe, feelings are still feelings demanded to be felt no matter how you avoid and deny it.

The heart never says to stop loving. It’s the heart that opens your mind to the reality and finally it’s one’s decision to take it or leave it. Some feelings do fade away, falling out of love as it is called, and it’s during one’s moving on process that one realizes that life is too short to be anything but happy. But, can two broken hearts find comfort in each other?

No one have fathomed the possibility of finding comfort and love in one person who’s broken. Broken by love, by the cruelty of life, consequences of bad decisions made before, and loss of hope thinking of no chances to win everything back again. Persons who thought that they do not have any more right to be happy, to love and to be loved, persons who thought their world has ended. Yes, it is possible for two different jagged hearts to fall in love and start anew.

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Love doesn’t require couples to be perfect. As the old, probably most cliché, saying goes- ‘You don’t need to find the perfect person to love, but you have to accept a flawed person and love him/her perfectly”. Given the fact that it’s like once you’ve been hurt, you’re so scared to get attached again, like you have the fear that every person you start to like is going to break your heart. It is as it may seem, but that isn’t how love works.

There comes a point in our lives, always, when we do things or mistakes, ones we thought we would never capable of doing. That doesn’t mean that we are bad people, it only means we are not perfect. In those moments, everything is put to the test- our friendships, our relationships, who we are and who we can still become. In the process, we wonder, who will accept that we are only human and we admit to making mistakes, who will forgive us and who have enough faith in us. In those same moments, we begin to find the real ones, the best ones, the ones who, no matter how tough and crazy it gets, will always love us enough. Just enough to stay and start over with us. We may choose to let these mistakes consume us and then define us but we can always choose to forgive it, own up to it and rise above it. We should always know that in spite and because of these mistakes, we can become better people and that making mistakes happen-even to the best of us. No matter what, we should never stop having hope, keeping Faith and believing, that one blessed day, we will redeem everything and right there we would know as maturing individuals we finally got our second, third, fourth, fifth chances,

Moving on is a tough process. You need to be real strong in order to get over with it. It happens to everyone as they grow up, you find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.

Yes, it is possible for broken hearts to be restored to a place of health and emotion again, demonstrate love, and forgive.

Not all people have the guts to pretend how strong they are. They stumble down, they also get hurt, they lose, and they give up. People are human beings that are expected to be influenced by their surroundings- bound for heartaches and disappointments.

Pain is always around. The thing is that, pain is just waiting for someone to burst all the tears out and be affected. The distress will always make a person down. The discomfort one feels can make one desperate to make irrational decisions which they think is right. It’s a defense mechanism. All the pain felt will give out lessons, and that lessons will change a person.

Actually, it depends to the person if he/she will let the pain endure his/her being. Some savour it while it lasts because they know that it will pass eventually. Many don’t know how to cope up with it and fail to surpass it. But for a few, they endure it, use it to change their mind set, perspective and all the things they can change. It’s not about revenge; it’s about dealing with shit and staying strong.

We are living in a world of uncertainties. The best way to not get your heart broken is to pretend that you don’t have one. Some people really pull out the best in you. However, it’s better to treat everyone you meet as if they were going to die by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Guess your life will never ever be the same again.

Walking away has nothing to do with weakness and everything to do with strength. People walk away not because they want others to realize their worth and value, but because they finally realize their own. Maybe, there is something they’re afraid to say, or someone they’re afraid to love, or somewhere they’re afraid to go. One thing is for sure, it’s gonna hurt like hell. It’s gonna hurt because it matters.

In life, there are some people you’re going to have lose in order to find yourself. Others signify that everybody has gone through something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person they once were.

Really, that’s the thing about pain; it demands to be felt.

Love comes during the times we don’t expect it. We get hurt without us knowing. We get betrayed without our consent. But that’s what life is all about. Sometimes, we never have an idea what’s best for us.

How hard is it to let go of a 6-year relationship? One may have doubts to see the time wasted. Or maybe, one has the capacity to look over one’s self-pity for spending quite some time over the dramas. One must realize that it is one great strategy to end up the crazy fights. Also, possibility would be, one would be thankful for having the ability to do whatever they wanted to- single.

Love is ruined not always by third party or ruined trust. There will always come a time that both of you are tired. Tired of making an effort, tired of understanding, tired of showing how grateful you are to have each other. Maybe, one has realized that it really is true love, but in contrary, hurt by the fact that true love has its requirements to work.

You know you love each other so much but the circumstances won’t allow to keep you pursuing. That love wouldn’t keep you alive forever. That love tested by time can’t keep you guaranteed that you will always be loved forever. That love can’t keep the both of you faithful to each other. Many doubts will enter in to your mind, I guess one has to deal with it.

Most of the time, there are really things that should come to an end. One might want to deal with it for the rest of eternity, but hail to the ones who realizes self-respect. As the old saying goes, in every ending, there’s a new beginning. One may wonder of the future possibilities of getting back together in the future sooner or later, but fate has its own destiny. One may want to draw his/her destined path, but it will always be the fate.

Sometimes understanding is better than love. Try to understand people and one will be less hurt. In a relationship, there should always be a time spent away from each other.

Love fades away if the hearts grow apart. That ends my love story.

You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.
You must remember when she forgets.
You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.
She remembers when you forget.
You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.
You must learn her.
You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.
You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.
And, this is how you keep her.
This is how you lose her

– “This is How You Lose Her” by Junot Diaz

Reading between the lines. 🙂