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As I sit on a table surrounded with my housemates, I can see all of them struggling to comply with all of the requirements they need to have in compliance with their graduation. I can see myself on them as I was fighting against exactly the same things a year ago. With that, I can see that most people, if not all are doing all means to achieve his/her own goal. I’ve been seeing the same scenario in this table for the past months and it made me look back on the things I’ve had after complying all of these—GRADUATION, A DEGREE!

The day after graduation, I was torn between statements of “No, you must reward yourself first for working too hard for your degree” and “get up, find a job, pay your parents back for all the sacrifices and achieve your life goals”. Apparently, it is never wrong to reward yourself of some good treats for working your butt off in attaining your degree. On the other hand, it defeats the purpose of graduating on time if you make reasons of delaying your life goals, doesn’t it?

In a perspective of my young mind and experience in 21 years, here are some of my realizations after graduation:

1. Not figuring your life out just yet is natural. During youth, you are at the peak of your curiosity, exploring possibilities of doing this and doing that and the consequences of this when you do that. It is just natural not to know what you want to settle for in the future, exempting the fact that you graduated with a degree you really want to practice. So, it is definitely fine at the age of 20 or 21 not to know where you are going, just do not totally lose control of what you aim. Chill.

2. Your first job is not your forever job. You might have attained a degree in education or journalism and practice it in the first six months of getting that degree. It rarely happens that you practice your degree in profession, I congratulate you if that’s the case, but there will always be something in you to think over the box and have the urge to try other profession and savor how it feels like. Quitting your first job is not a crime at all.

find20job20logo3. You want to do so many things but you lack resources. It is like a norm in the Philippines that your parents are supporting you every step of the way towards your goals. However, most parents, if not all, assume that fresh graduates can support themselves right after. But that is just not the case. After graduation, you will still long for the things you do when you were in college such as hanging out with your friends, going out on a pub, buying these stuff and all. And it will kill you every time you want to do so but you can’t because you don’t have money. And it sucks.

4. Romantic relationship will be the last item in your life. This may not be applicable to all but you will be at the lowest point of your life because of confusion in priorities. You will not know how you will be able to start in achieving your wants. It is very difficult to be in a relationship without knowing your own sense of direction. So do not expect those relationship goals just right after graduation because reality in life slaps real hard.

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5. You will have the worst feeling of inferiority. It is awful to be belittled by other people but at some point in other people’s life, they feel inferior, especially fresh graduates when it comes to job application. You must acknowledge the fact that you are not the only person who graduated Summa, Magna of Cum Laude in this universe, you’re not the only fresh graduate with that degree from that university. However, you must trust yourself and everything else will follow. It is completely understandable if you will be rejected a couple of times. What matters most is that, you tried.

6. You must plan your future. It really pays if you plan your life. Not just a general plan but a detailed one. When you plan a house, you just don’t decide when to build a house but you also must consider where to get money to build a house and what materials to be used. In short, you must plan what is gonna happen in your life and what you want to achieve 5 or 10 years from now. To make it more effective, list down the things you want to do or achieve yearly. Just a little piece of advice, take a look at that list first thing in the morning.

7. Failure is delayed success. It is inevitable that you compare yourself with your batch mates right after graduation. You will have the tendency to compare their success to your success and you will realize that some of them are already ahead of you in the race. Maybe that is because they are so eager and so driven not to be left by time. The extra amount of effort and hard work made all the difference. Maybe, it is no just your time to shine like they do, or maybe there are better things ahead of you that God made you wait for. Just always remember that the best things come to those who wait but better things happen to those who chase them. You’ll shine when you least expect it.

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Things do not always work the way you want them. They happen in the most candid way, in your least expected timing. You do not expect these phenomena to happen but I surely that if they do, just trust yourself and trust God, you’ll be perfectly fine. These things are better in their right timing. Just relax as you witness magical objects in your life unfold. It’s okay to stumble down, it’s okay to be confused, it’s okay to be rejected. Don’t rush, enjoy your life with purpose!

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There are feelings that have been lost, feelings that have faded away, feelings that have been deformed by the circumstances, feelings destroyed by conditional terms, and feelings ruined by another stronger destructive feeling. Whatever feelings those maybe, feelings are still feelings demanded to be felt no matter how you avoid and deny it.

The heart never says to stop loving. It’s the heart that opens your mind to the reality and finally it’s one’s decision to take it or leave it. Some feelings do fade away, falling out of love as it is called, and it’s during one’s moving on process that one realizes that life is too short to be anything but happy. But, can two broken hearts find comfort in each other?

No one have fathomed the possibility of finding comfort and love in one person who’s broken. Broken by love, by the cruelty of life, consequences of bad decisions made before, and loss of hope thinking of no chances to win everything back again. Persons who thought that they do not have any more right to be happy, to love and to be loved, persons who thought their world has ended. Yes, it is possible for two different jagged hearts to fall in love and start anew.

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Love doesn’t require couples to be perfect. As the old, probably most cliché, saying goes- ‘You don’t need to find the perfect person to love, but you have to accept a flawed person and love him/her perfectly”. Given the fact that it’s like once you’ve been hurt, you’re so scared to get attached again, like you have the fear that every person you start to like is going to break your heart. It is as it may seem, but that isn’t how love works.

There comes a point in our lives, always, when we do things or mistakes, ones we thought we would never capable of doing. That doesn’t mean that we are bad people, it only means we are not perfect. In those moments, everything is put to the test- our friendships, our relationships, who we are and who we can still become. In the process, we wonder, who will accept that we are only human and we admit to making mistakes, who will forgive us and who have enough faith in us. In those same moments, we begin to find the real ones, the best ones, the ones who, no matter how tough and crazy it gets, will always love us enough. Just enough to stay and start over with us. We may choose to let these mistakes consume us and then define us but we can always choose to forgive it, own up to it and rise above it. We should always know that in spite and because of these mistakes, we can become better people and that making mistakes happen-even to the best of us. No matter what, we should never stop having hope, keeping Faith and believing, that one blessed day, we will redeem everything and right there we would know as maturing individuals we finally got our second, third, fourth, fifth chances,

Moving on is a tough process. You need to be real strong in order to get over with it. It happens to everyone as they grow up, you find out who you are and what you want, and then you realize that people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do. So you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on.

Yes, it is possible for broken hearts to be restored to a place of health and emotion again, demonstrate love, and forgive.

Not all people have the guts to pretend how strong they are. They stumble down, they also get hurt, they lose, and they give up. People are human beings that are expected to be influenced by their surroundings- bound for heartaches and disappointments.

Pain is always around. The thing is that, pain is just waiting for someone to burst all the tears out and be affected. The distress will always make a person down. The discomfort one feels can make one desperate to make irrational decisions which they think is right. It’s a defense mechanism. All the pain felt will give out lessons, and that lessons will change a person.

Actually, it depends to the person if he/she will let the pain endure his/her being. Some savour it while it lasts because they know that it will pass eventually. Many don’t know how to cope up with it and fail to surpass it. But for a few, they endure it, use it to change their mind set, perspective and all the things they can change. It’s not about revenge; it’s about dealing with shit and staying strong.

We are living in a world of uncertainties. The best way to not get your heart broken is to pretend that you don’t have one. Some people really pull out the best in you. However, it’s better to treat everyone you meet as if they were going to die by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Guess your life will never ever be the same again.

Walking away has nothing to do with weakness and everything to do with strength. People walk away not because they want others to realize their worth and value, but because they finally realize their own. Maybe, there is something they’re afraid to say, or someone they’re afraid to love, or somewhere they’re afraid to go. One thing is for sure, it’s gonna hurt like hell. It’s gonna hurt because it matters.

In life, there are some people you’re going to have lose in order to find yourself. Others signify that everybody has gone through something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person they once were.

Really, that’s the thing about pain; it demands to be felt.

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The year of the water snake has been a balanced of luck and despair. Of course, that’s what life is meant to be, to go on. I just would like to share my 2013 experiences hoping to inspire others and to give advices to many.

The first quarter of 2013 has been very extravagant for me. Surprisingly, I qualify for the Japan East-Asia Network of Exchange for Students and Youth- ASEAN Economic Batch 2.0 giving me the opportunity to visit Japan. Not only that, it is an all-expense-paid program by the Japanese Government. Words can’t really explain how grateful I was when that opportunity came into my life. Though I was a little hesitant, thanks to Prof. Ricky G. Abalena III for encouraging me to apply in that program.

Visiting the Land of the Rising Sun has given me the confidence of being myself. I became optimistic in all aspect, I became more patient, I became more understanding. Added to that, I was elected as the Assistant Seretary of our College’s Student Council. I grabbed the chance since it is an opportune time for me to share what I have got in terms of leadership and to take participation in the well-being of my College. I am a part of it until now, and I will never be sorry for committing myself.

My mid-2013 went on so smoothly. In fact, another angel has been added to our family named Bianca Marie Newhook. I was so happy because she is the first daughter/niece/girl grandchild in the Newhook family. I could not deny my parents’ happiness as well as we exchange our conversations through Skype. She is so adorable and jolly. Her smile and giggles can launch a thousand ships and crash a million planes.

In the last quarter of 2013, my world has turned upside down. There have been opportunities I didn’t see coming, and there are those which are not meant for me. At first, one failure is enough. But there was a time that I have received two bad news in one just one day. I got the biggest frustration of the year a day before my birthday. Hurting, isn’t it? I wouldn’t mention all of my failures because it may be used against me, which is something I don’t want to happen. To avoid the bitterness that I feel as well.

If there are two great lessons which 2013 has taught me, they would be:

1. Treasure every opportunity that has been given to you and ;

2. Expect the unexpected.

There are things in life that is not controlled by you. There are things that only fate has the idea. So if fate permits, be thankful. Make the most out of it and never ever forget to share your blessings. Failures are just little decorations that make your life colourful. Now, I am working out an opportunity again without having the idea what will the result be, may be failure again. If that happens, I will be hurt but I will cry no more since I have taken by heart the lesson number 2 that 2013 taught me. EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED.

My biggest mistake this 2013 was expecting too much. Therefore, I should have no expectations by 2014 to make my life more meaningful and stress- free. In the end, it goes back to the definition of life- Just go on because life is all about FIGHTING!

Happy New Year everyone!

People don’t know how damaged Visayas is. They thought that homes have been destroyed, posts have fallen, and trees have been unrooted. It is more than that. Lives has vanished.

This week has tested the Filipino humankind and their sense of volunteerism. Everyone is making a way or two to help other people who have been victimized by Yolanda. There is Tacloban where people have to shoplift the closed stores just to get anything that they can use. They do not get enough food, and worse, they don’t even get to satisfy their thirst. In Tacloban as well, there were more than 5,000 deaths that have been already recorded and countless are still missing. After the typhoon, corpses are seen hanging on the posts and trees, and many have been found under debris. Tacloban has been crying for help to the extent that no authority can handle them, thus forcing PNoy to call them under Martial Law.

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Since I belong to the Western Visayas, I will focus more on my area. Yes, every one of us here suffered Yolanda’s cruelty, but then there are really people whose situations are worse. The Northern Part of Iloilo has been the very target of Yolanda. Yolanda was successful. She hit all of the houses, ruined establishments, knocked out every tree, and she ended number of lives. From Anilao, Banate, Barota Viejo, Sara, Ajuy, Concepcion, Carles, Balsan, Estancia, Capiz, Antique, and Roxas City. Name it, damages have been recorded. Worst thing is that, Antique and Capiz has been very poor. Poor from Media attention and Relief goods. I wonder when will those goods arrive?

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As I was browsing on my newsfeed two days ago, I have seen news articles saying that numerous countries have donated millions of pesos to used for Yolanda victims. Thank you all to those countries who indeed help us financially. Thank you so much Denmark, Sweden, Norway, UAE, UK, Canda, Netherlands, Elements of Okinawa, Australia, European Union, Germany, Israel, Japan, New Zealand, and Saudi Arabia.

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To those who are following my blog, here are some sort of help to all the people in the Philippines. Please continue praying! Thank you very much.

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P.S. I do not personally own any of the pictures. Credits will be duly recognized to the owners.

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Posted: November 1, 2013 in Articles, Reflection
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I am bound to take off from my 18th. The seatbelt of happiness keeps me holding, my friends and families serve as my stewardess s through all the flight I am in, my co-passengers in the flight which aims to destruct and ruin me. But, I am the pilot of my own plane, therefore I have the right to decide on my own.

My 18th was a very good age for me. Though I wasn’t able to welcome it with fancy gown, red roses, luscious cakes and glamorous cotillion, I know that this age would give so much happiness to me.  At first, I feel disappointed when my parents told me that I will not be having a party (feeling of anybody teenager like me) but then, I realized that my parents are doing their best to earn money, and that, those money are used for me to study.

I turned 18 November 1 last year. I guess anybody who will read this will link my birthday to Halloween parties (lol). But yes, I do not regret that I was born in that day because all people do celebrate it in their own respective homes.

On March 2013, I again gave pride to my parents for being an awardee in Academics, Silver Medalist to be specific. I did this already for two consecutive years and I hope to maintain this, this academic year.

This year has also been a stepping stone for me. This year or academic year perhaps, gave me a chance to make a name in our college. I have been part of the Communication Student Council and of course, how could I forget my journey to Japan? Going there has given me chances to realize that I am lucky. Luckier than any other student out there. This trip will always stay in my heart and soul.

From the time that I turned 16, I feel empty every time my birthday comes. Though everyone is coming to my house to celebrate it my birthday with me, I just feel incomplete inside. I feel like something is missing and thus bothering me.

But now that I look back to what I have done in my 18 years of being, I can conclude that I have made a difference. Not only to myself but of course to other people. I did not fail to help others especially children who are the hope of our fatherland. From the reading advocacies to volunteer talks and seminars, I gave myself just to help them. But then it’s up to them whether to accept or reject it.

Of course, I have plenty of wishes in my life. But if I will be asked for one wish on my 19th birthday, it would be my family. I wish that my sisters will go home here in the Philippines. For your information, I have 3 siblings and all of us are girls and all of them are out of the country. The eldest has a family now in Canada, with her is my 2 nephews and 1 baby niece. I would love to see and hug them cause I just always see them in Skype. Me and my eldest sister haven’t seen each other for 7 years now. My second sister is in Dubai and I haven’t seen her for 3 years and next is in Qatar for 1 year now.

But I don’t feel bitter if they are away because I know that they have to grow for themselves as well. It’s just that, I miss them. But nevertheless, I really feel blessed that I have them because they help my parents to provide me the things I need.

Of course, I know that what I wish is impossible for now because of time constraints. But yes, I wish all the best for me and my family and I wish that all of my dreams( that have been realized just now) will come true sooner or later.

Thank you to all who greeted me both in SMS and SNS. I appreciate them, really. So I took time and effort to respond to all of those as well. To God be the Glory!