Posts Tagged ‘Blessings’

At some point in your life, you will encounter someone who is absolutely 100% perfect for you. There is a catch, though. There is always a catch. It could be a force beyond your control. It could be something that you bring upon yourself; your fears, needs, or feelings that you weren’t ready for. It may be an age difference, a distance problem, or some other way of physically keeping you apart. The point is, this person could have been everything you wanted, but they slipped through the cracks. They are known most commonly as the one that got away. But what if the one that got away is back?

He got away because of your immaturity. He got away because of the certain things you thought was extraordinary and you thought you can’t handle. He got away because you were selfish. He got away because you thought he wouldn’t be so much for you. He left because you made him thought you don’t deserve him. He left because he really felt unwanted when all he was asking was to love him back.

Gone are the days that you didn’t even think of him. You concentrated on building yourself, making memories with the wrong person, achieving your personal goals and having good times with the environment you were in. During those times, there will always be one thing that will remind you of him and how crazy you were few years back. May this thing be a letter, a word, a song, or even just a thought but it will pinch you on the inside. Even just a little bit.

Late at night when you are having the worst day of your life burdened with the worst person you’re with at the present, you are left with options of thinking the ‘what if’s’ like thinking the possibility of not cutting your relationship before with someone who was ready to give the whole world to you. What if you didn’t make him feel that you didn’t love him at all? What if you were mature enough to handle a relationship that time? What… If…?

You’d be insane thinking what he was doing during the time that he was moving on, what he did when you were enjoying the life of being single for a while, being with another guy for just split of a second and leaving him of the whereabouts why you have broken up with him, and you’d be hysterical to find out how he dealt with the heartbreak you caused him.

You will think that you didn’t deserve how well he treated you, how long he stayed with you, how would he stayed awake just to speak to you and worst, you’d think that you didn’t deserve him. But again, what if he comes back? You made your way back to each other’s arms, fell madly in love as if nothing happened in the past. Everything is so perfect. Everything seems to last a lifetime.

You’ve lost that person and found him again. The second time around, things just made more sense. Honestly, timing has a lot to do with everything. In the past, you aren’t ready for each other yet that is why you parted ways. This time, don’t let him go. This chance is giving yourself a second try just like giving yourself an extra bullet for your gun because you missed him the first time.

Give it your best shot.

 

 

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As I sit on a table surrounded with my housemates, I can see all of them struggling to comply with all of the requirements they need to have in compliance with their graduation. I can see myself on them as I was fighting against exactly the same things a year ago. With that, I can see that most people, if not all are doing all means to achieve his/her own goal. I’ve been seeing the same scenario in this table for the past months and it made me look back on the things I’ve had after complying all of these—GRADUATION, A DEGREE!

The day after graduation, I was torn between statements of “No, you must reward yourself first for working too hard for your degree” and “get up, find a job, pay your parents back for all the sacrifices and achieve your life goals”. Apparently, it is never wrong to reward yourself of some good treats for working your butt off in attaining your degree. On the other hand, it defeats the purpose of graduating on time if you make reasons of delaying your life goals, doesn’t it?

In a perspective of my young mind and experience in 21 years, here are some of my realizations after graduation:

1. Not figuring your life out just yet is natural. During youth, you are at the peak of your curiosity, exploring possibilities of doing this and doing that and the consequences of this when you do that. It is just natural not to know what you want to settle for in the future, exempting the fact that you graduated with a degree you really want to practice. So, it is definitely fine at the age of 20 or 21 not to know where you are going, just do not totally lose control of what you aim. Chill.

2. Your first job is not your forever job. You might have attained a degree in education or journalism and practice it in the first six months of getting that degree. It rarely happens that you practice your degree in profession, I congratulate you if that’s the case, but there will always be something in you to think over the box and have the urge to try other profession and savor how it feels like. Quitting your first job is not a crime at all.

find20job20logo3. You want to do so many things but you lack resources. It is like a norm in the Philippines that your parents are supporting you every step of the way towards your goals. However, most parents, if not all, assume that fresh graduates can support themselves right after. But that is just not the case. After graduation, you will still long for the things you do when you were in college such as hanging out with your friends, going out on a pub, buying these stuff and all. And it will kill you every time you want to do so but you can’t because you don’t have money. And it sucks.

4. Romantic relationship will be the last item in your life. This may not be applicable to all but you will be at the lowest point of your life because of confusion in priorities. You will not know how you will be able to start in achieving your wants. It is very difficult to be in a relationship without knowing your own sense of direction. So do not expect those relationship goals just right after graduation because reality in life slaps real hard.

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5. You will have the worst feeling of inferiority. It is awful to be belittled by other people but at some point in other people’s life, they feel inferior, especially fresh graduates when it comes to job application. You must acknowledge the fact that you are not the only person who graduated Summa, Magna of Cum Laude in this universe, you’re not the only fresh graduate with that degree from that university. However, you must trust yourself and everything else will follow. It is completely understandable if you will be rejected a couple of times. What matters most is that, you tried.

6. You must plan your future. It really pays if you plan your life. Not just a general plan but a detailed one. When you plan a house, you just don’t decide when to build a house but you also must consider where to get money to build a house and what materials to be used. In short, you must plan what is gonna happen in your life and what you want to achieve 5 or 10 years from now. To make it more effective, list down the things you want to do or achieve yearly. Just a little piece of advice, take a look at that list first thing in the morning.

7. Failure is delayed success. It is inevitable that you compare yourself with your batch mates right after graduation. You will have the tendency to compare their success to your success and you will realize that some of them are already ahead of you in the race. Maybe that is because they are so eager and so driven not to be left by time. The extra amount of effort and hard work made all the difference. Maybe, it is no just your time to shine like they do, or maybe there are better things ahead of you that God made you wait for. Just always remember that the best things come to those who wait but better things happen to those who chase them. You’ll shine when you least expect it.

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Things do not always work the way you want them. They happen in the most candid way, in your least expected timing. You do not expect these phenomena to happen but I surely that if they do, just trust yourself and trust God, you’ll be perfectly fine. These things are better in their right timing. Just relax as you witness magical objects in your life unfold. It’s okay to stumble down, it’s okay to be confused, it’s okay to be rejected. Don’t rush, enjoy your life with purpose!

Love comes during the times we don’t expect it. We get hurt without us knowing. We get betrayed without our consent. But that’s what life is all about. Sometimes, we never have an idea what’s best for us.

How hard is it to let go of a 6-year relationship? One may have doubts to see the time wasted. Or maybe, one has the capacity to look over one’s self-pity for spending quite some time over the dramas. One must realize that it is one great strategy to end up the crazy fights. Also, possibility would be, one would be thankful for having the ability to do whatever they wanted to- single.

Love is ruined not always by third party or ruined trust. There will always come a time that both of you are tired. Tired of making an effort, tired of understanding, tired of showing how grateful you are to have each other. Maybe, one has realized that it really is true love, but in contrary, hurt by the fact that true love has its requirements to work.

You know you love each other so much but the circumstances won’t allow to keep you pursuing. That love wouldn’t keep you alive forever. That love tested by time can’t keep you guaranteed that you will always be loved forever. That love can’t keep the both of you faithful to each other. Many doubts will enter in to your mind, I guess one has to deal with it.

Most of the time, there are really things that should come to an end. One might want to deal with it for the rest of eternity, but hail to the ones who realizes self-respect. As the old saying goes, in every ending, there’s a new beginning. One may wonder of the future possibilities of getting back together in the future sooner or later, but fate has its own destiny. One may want to draw his/her destined path, but it will always be the fate.

Sometimes understanding is better than love. Try to understand people and one will be less hurt. In a relationship, there should always be a time spent away from each other.

Love fades away if the hearts grow apart. That ends my love story.

Blessings

Posted: October 31, 2013 in International, Music Lounge
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I lean unto this now that I feel down. 😦

“But how could …

Posted: October 21, 2013 in Blessings, Food for Thought
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“But how could anyone be
grateful for what they have if
they didn’t know what it was
l i k e not to have what they
need?”
― Josephine Angelini, Goddess

“The LORD bless…

Posted: October 21, 2013 in Blessings, Food for Thought
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“The LORD bless you and keep you;
the LORD make his face shine on you and be gracious to you;
the LORD turn his face toward you and give you peace ~ Numbers 6:24-25”
― Anonymous, Holy Bible: King James Version

“If we never ex…

Posted: October 21, 2013 in Blessings, Food for Thought
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“If we never experience the chill of a dark winter, it is very unlikely that we will ever cherish the warmth of a bright summer’s day. Nothing stimulates our appetite for the simple joys of life more than the starvation caused by sadness or desperation. In order to complete our amazing life journey successfully, it is vital that we turn each and every dark tear into a pearl of wisdom, and find the blessing in every curse.”
― Anthon St. Maarten, Divine Living: The Essential Guide To Your True Destiny

“You’ve been gi…

Posted: October 21, 2013 in Blessings, Food for Thought
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“You’ve been given the innate power to shape your life…but you cannot just speak change, you have to LIVE change. Intent paired with action builds the bridge to success. You can’t just want it; you have to do it, live it…BE it! Success isn’t something you have, it’s something you DO!”
― Steve Maraboli

“One of the mai…

Posted: October 21, 2013 in Blessings, Food for Thought
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“One of the main reasons that we lose our enthusiasm in life is because we become ungrateful..we let what was once a miracle become common to us. We get so accustomed to his goodness it becomes a routine..”
― Joel Osteen, Your Best Life Now: 7 Steps to Living at Your Full Potential

The I in illnes…

Posted: October 21, 2013 in Food for Thought, Health
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The I in illness is isolation, and the crucial letters in wellness are we. ~Author unknown, as quoted in Mimi Guarneri, The Heart Speaks: A Cardiologist Reveals the Secret Language of Healing